Obsessive love is a form of love where one person is emotionally obsessed with another.
The obsessive lover believe that their “one magic person” alone can make them feel happy and fulfilled.
Four conditions that help identify Obsessive Love: (Forward, S. & Buck, C.)
1. A painful and all-consuming preoccupation with a real or wished-for lover
2. An insatiable longing either to possess or be possessed by the target of their obsession
3. Rejection by or physical and/or emotional unavailability of their target, and
4. Being driven to behave in self-defeating ways by this rejection or unavailability.
I’m still not sure where to draw the line between love and obsession? Where does love end and obsession start?
March 28 2007
Found some interesting reading on Some Philosophizing About Love
Obsessive love is generally associated with unrequited love or unequal love.
Unrequited love is described as an individual experience rather than a relationship — a wish to love or be loved rather than love itself.
The obsessive lover lives in hope and suffers constant uncertainty about the feelings of the beloved. The entire life of the obsessive may be focused on speculations about the meaning of words & actions of the beloved.